Love is amazingly complicated
Everyone at one point or another experiences relationship struggles. We all hope to find ‘the one’ but sometimes it’s difficult to know what love even looks like. Thanks to the folks at the very popular YouTube channel, Psych2Go, there are 7 tell-tale signs that you might not be in the most healthy situation. Avoiding these pitfalls can help you discover a lasting, love-filled relationship.
Here are 7 things to avoid in a relationship:
1. You don’t get each other
According to Psych2Go, compatibility is related to happiness. Although we do love our significant others in spite of their flaws and imperfections, it is still very important to understand how your partner is feeling. Miscommunication can sabotage a happy relationship.
“It’s better to be with someone you can be in sync with…someone that picks up and understands your non-verbal cues.” – Psych2Go
2. You’re too different
It is perfectly fine to be your own person. After all, we are all individuals with our own thoughts, beliefs, and desires for the future. However, it is still important to have common interests with our partners. According to Psych2Go, if you are in a relationship with someone who doesn’t share the same ideals, values, humor, or principles, it can eventually make it very difficult to relate to each other in a meaningful way.
3. You try to change each other…not grow and learn together
A true partner would not want to change you to suit their own needs. Change should happen if you decide it works for you. A supportive relationship doesn’t force change onto the other person.
“The hallmark of any strong, healthy relationship is having a partner who gives you the drive and motivation to change for the better.” – Psych2Go
4. There is constant or highly frequent arguing
Arguing and disagreements are completely normal in a compatible relationship. No one should be without an opinion. However, when the fighting gets to a point where there is name-calling, humiliation, and shouting, the relationship is unhealthy.
“Being in a relationship with a partner who tends to bring out the ugliest side of you is never good.” – Psych2Go
5. You attain peace by avoiding all the problems
Every relationship has problems. It wouldn’t be normal if it didn’t. There are times when you just don’t see eye to eye and you need to talk it through. It’s best to bring these issues to the forefront in order to figure out a solution that is beneficial for each person. If you’re ‘sweeping problems under the rug’ in your relationship, you might just trip over it later.
6. Your socializing is isolated from everyone else
Psych2Go is quick to point out that a healthy relationship actually involves many people. Your significant other has friends and so do you. However, if you and your partner tend to not include any friends or family, it could make for an isolating relationship. Couples in healthy, loving relationships aren’t afraid to let others into their lives.
7. You’re not attracted to them
A compatible relationship needs to include chemistry and romance. Although this can look different depending on the couple, it is an important component of a strong bond.
“The Triarchic Theory of Love by Robert Sternberg states that although intimacy and commitment are present, without passion the love you share will only be plutonic.” – Psych2Go
Although love can look very different to each person, it comes down to a basic notion of happiness and respect. The other person in your life should make you a better person and vice-versa.
Now watch Psych2Go’s YouTube video about the 7 signs of a non-compatible relationship.
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