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5 signs that might signal it's time to cut ties with toxic family members

May 13th, 2021

Toxic people are bad for you. They can cause extreme stress that can affect your productivity, happiness, and outlook in life. Plus, the more stress you face, the greater its toll on your body. In fact, studies show that people who are involved in toxic relationships are more at risk of heart disease.

These things make it important that you remove toxic people from your life. But how do you do that?

Here are 5 telltale signs of a toxic person.

1. They continuously disrespect you.

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You can’t expect your family to be always about you. However, if they continuously disrespect you and ignore the boundaries you’ve set, you need to cut ties with them.

The process might be heartbreaking but it’s for your own good. You have the right to live a life that doesn’t involve people who are abusive and disrespectful to you.

2. There’s nothing positive about the relationship.

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A lot of people choose to stay in a toxic relationship with their family because they think there are positives they can gain.

For example, you may choose to stay in your parent’s home and endure life with your siblings because you feel that you have nowhere else to go. You think you’re physically safe there but in reality, you’re jeopardizing your mental health.

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If you are thinking twice about cutting ties with your family, think about the pros and cons. List down what you think you’ll gain and what you’ll lose if you remove them from your life.

3. They don’t listen to you.

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Confronting toxic people is good. However, if you’re dealing with narcissistic types, they probably won’t listen to you. That’s because they don’t think there’s something wrong with how they’re treating you.

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If you step up and state your case and they deny it or show aggressive behaviors towards you, don’t push it. Just consider it a sign to pack up and leave.

4. The family has lost its value.

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In society, family is sacred. It’s considered a place of respect, love, guidance, and support.

If you think about your experiences with your family and you realize that it’s not serving those purposes anymore, it’s probably the right time to let go.

5. You realize you’ve been abused.

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Usually, it takes a long time for someone to realize that they’ve been abused, particularly emotional abuse. In a family, it’s often very subtle so a person doesn’t realize it right away. Abuse within a family is so hard to recognize that some people reach their 40s or 50s before they realize it.

How to Cut Toxic People Out of Your Life

The process isn’t easy. The idea of breaking ties with a family member is heart-shattering.

But even though it’s not easy, you can still do it.

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The first step is making the decision. Once you’ve made up your mind, be firm and persistent. Restate your boundaries and stick with your chosen method of communication. Consider blocking them on social media and all lines of communication, if possible.

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Source: JAMA Network, Good Therapy