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7 commonly secrets men really want from their partners
I can assure that if these thing are well filled, the relationship has more chance to flourish.
Kenny Fernandez
08.22.21

If you ever wanted a platonic guy friend who can dish up all the juicy details about what men REALLY want, then Mat Boggs is your man. Think of him as the dating and relationship coach for girlfriends.

He has that friendly guy-next-door vibe that makes him so easy to relate to, and he’s incredibly charming and funny to boot!

I mean, who better to understand the hearts and minds of men, than someone who actually lives and breathes in that world?

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First of all, Mat wants you to understand that some guys don’t always articulate what they want. Perhaps they’re just too embarrassed to speak up, or they just don’t know how to ask.

So, when he says these are 7 things men want from their partner but don’t ask for, then you better pay attention!

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1. He wants you to be happy.

Mat says that a woman’s happiness is tied to her partner’s sense of worth. So if you’re unhappy, he’s either going to try to fix whatever you’re unhappy about or just avoid you until you get your positive mojo back.

“Your happiness is a reflection of HIM as a man a relationship.”

What Mat doesn’t bring up (and should be mentioned) is that this is one of the hallmarks of co-dependent behavior. The truth is, happiness comes from within! No one has the power to give or steal that away from you.

Just know if that if your boo is acting weird when you’re feeling blue, he probably just sucks at expressing how much he wants you to feel good. Talk it over and you’ll both feel better.

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2. He wants you to take interest in his interests.

If you’ve had any relationship at all in your life, you should know this is a given. Of course, opposites do attract, but sharing common interests is what can make his heart melt into a puddle of love.

“He wants you to be passionate about what he’s passionate about.”

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3. He wants you to initiate sex.

Think about it. If you had to ask someone to take out the trash every single day (okay, maybe not every day) for the rest of your life, you’d get tired of that real quick.

Sometimes it’s nice if that person would just get all trashy without you having to ask!

“Go ahead and be bold. Surprise him. Come out of the bathroom in some sexy lingerie.”

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4. He wants to be praised and acknowledged.

“No man will ask for this, or rarely asks for this and yet this is what we crave the most. That praise and acknowledgment to know that we’re doing a good job as your man.”

The praise doesn’t have to be for something monumental. Even thanking him for something as simple as picking up food on the way home will make your man feel good.

“A man’s sense of self expands under the light of your praise.”

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5. Encourage him to adventure out on his own.

Men think that your feelings might get hurt if they want to do something that doesn’t involve you.

“Men are conditioned to believe that women want way more time together than we want.”

Remind your partner that you’re independent, and it’s okay for him to go off and have his own spa day while you get some much-needed me/girlfriend time!

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6. He wants you to have confidence in him.

This is something that Mat says is very difficult for a man to ask for, but “it’s obvious when he doesn’t get it.”

“He feels like you don’t trust him to provide for you.”

When you give your partner a task, let him complete it for you without giving telling him how to do it. So, if you ask your guy for a date night, don’t be that person who tells him exactly how to get to the restaurant or where to park.

Remember, you’re romantic partners…not his mother.

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7. He has a deep desire for respect.

In all of the years of coaching couples, Mat says the number one principle that always comes up is (sing it with me) R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Although sometimes it can be an ambiguous concept, respect can show up in the littlest of things.

“It shows up in the way we listen to one another. It shows up in the way we show up on time, keeping the agreement for when we meet with one another. It shows up in the way we honor each other’s differences.”

It also shows up in how courteous you are – saying “please” and “thank you” is just good manners!

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Photo by Matheus Ferrero on Unsplash

Bottom line: showing appreciation for the little things in your relationship shows just how much you care.

If you want more “Cracking the Man Code” tips, you can follow Mat on his YouTube channel or website.

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By Kenny Fernandez
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Kenny Fernandez is a contributor at SBLY Media.
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